Episode 19 – It’s Easy to Get Off Track, But Here’s How to Recover

Welcome to the Mentor 4 Moms Podcast!

On this episode:

When I feel down, for whatever reason, I tend to choose one of two things to focus on: Isolating myself or Comparing my life to others OR BOTH.

Listen to episode 18 where I talk about letting grace set the pace, but today we will talk about ways that we seek out false comforts.

When I isolate, hello:

Netflix binge
Junk food
Unnecessary sleep
Unreturned phone calls
Projects stall out
And more . . .

When I get into comparison:

I become hyper critical of myself
I think too highly of what others are doing and too little of my own accomplishments
I get into an all or nothing mindset
I compete with others and act like there’s a trophy or prize to win
I either get prideful or false humility, AKA insecurity and painful self deprecating jokes

Today I want to invite you to make a list of your own false comforts – those things you run to for comfort when you want to isolate and when you compare your life to others and feel like you come up short.

What does your list look like? Shopping? Social media? Exercise? Eating? . . .

There’s nothing wrong with these things, except when we use them to comfort us, to hide us, or to attempt to make us feel better in an effort to avoid getting real about what’s really bothering us.

We’re clear on a few of the ways we can get off track. – But how can you get back on?

We need to remind ourselves that isolation and comparison are distractions. Remember Episode 1 when we talked about the Mom Continuum? On one end is distraction and the other end is intentional.

We want to continually press towards that intentional end of the continuum.

We also talked in that episode about how comparison is an invitation for inspiration. But we often miss it and end up exposing our insecurities. When we see someone doing well, we get to let that inspire us and invite greatness into our own lives. But all too often, we only see what we can’t do, or what we don’t have and we miss the opportunity to be inspired.

So today, remember that when you’re tempted to isolate yourself or jump into comparison, these are just distractions.

Go back and visit your family vision. If you don’t have one check out Episode 4 where we talk about how to create a family vision.

After re-visiting your vision, use your core values to help re-set your mind, and then live out your priorities with your core values guiding each decision. These three steps are the basis of the Intentional Mom Framework.

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